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Typically, right now your world has ended and your head hurts with the possibility of what next?
Hold it together. It's a state of mind. A new chapter in your life is just about to unravel itself.
Remove your bottom lip from off the ground, believe it or not as much as it feels so wrong right now - this break up is about to be the best thing that has happened to you of late. Don't bask in time-wasting 'what ifs', focus on the now. Whatever the reason was for you and your (breathe) 'ex' parting ways, it is over, however much energy you gave, it’s game over.
Remove the imaginary flicking neon "loser" sign from your forehead, you're not alone and you're certainly no loser. We all go through this rite of passage; errr, some more often than others. Whether it's a 2 week fizzled relationship or divorce - breaking up is part of our journey. It's what makes us human. We tend to beat ourselves up when we think we have failed in any area within our lives but we need these wakeup calls in life to gauge where we're at. Bitter or ecstatic, whatever receiving end you're on, be true to yourself.
Do what you need to do to expel all those bad feelings associated with the break up. Sadness, failure, rejection or bruising of the ego, whatever you feel - cleanse yourself completely. Sob, sob and sob to your mum, best friend or dog, scream, drown your sorrows in whatever you can find. Then, draw a line in the sand and move on.
Metaphorically speaking, let's compare a relationship to a car (or the person in question - whatever works best). A car needs consistent maintenance or problems will weaken its mechanics, nurture it and its life will flourish, but neglect the maintenance and you'll see the cracks. If you keep maintaining your car and it continues to break down - you really have no other choice but to dispose of it. Obviously, people are human and we consist of complicated emotions unlike vehicles but in simple terms you get the picture. Besides, looking for a new model especially a new and improved version can certainly have its pluses. But make sure you find a model that compliments your wants and needs and accept nothing less.
When you're not looking, love will find you - that's the beauty of it. I'm glad cupid waited until I was ready. Nothing I could have done would have made me meet my partner any earlier. Life's meant for living, not dreaming of what could have been. Good things take time. Mr or Mrs Right is out there.
Rediscover yourself, your confidence and your inner potential, new adventures and your forgotten wild side - these are all there for the taking. If you were the "dumpee" and feel nothing but a sense of rejection - regain your independence and embrace your new relationship with yourself. Once the fog clears, welcome yourself back! Throw a home-coming party for yourself and be proud of your freshly acclaimed singledom. Are you feeling excited? You should be.
Every day I understand why I needed to go through my big break up. Enjoy your journey!
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